5 Things I Learnt From My Wedding Day

My wedding day was the best day of my entire life. Getting dolled up and meeting my perfect man at the end of a beautiful white sandy beach was absolutely perfect and there was no way I would change any of it. The day was just as perfect as I had been imagining, and the walk down the aisle was so spot on to my dreams that I started crying before I even got to the end. I learnt a lot being the bride as opposed to the event stylist or event planner, and thought I would share some of these pearls of wisdom with you my lovely readers!

Take a Moment

 Photo by Nora Devai Photography

1. Take A Moment.

Our wonderful celebrant Monty gave us this advice a few weeks out before our wedding when we met with him to sign all the paperwork and official documents. He told us that throughout the day we need to stop, take a step back and take a breath and just look around us. Take in what was happening. The day goes by so fast that you could easily glance over these precious moments, so take a few moments throughout the day to really remember and take in the ceremony, the reception, the getting ready part.

This was very true to the point where I barely remember any of our vows and our ceremony. All I could do what look into Byron’s eyes and just relish the feeling of happiness that was bubbling up inside of me and glowing out of every pore. It was only when we got our wedding video back that we were able to actually take in what Monty had been saying.

We had a part in our ceremony where we threw a lava rock into the ocean to leave a part of ourselves behind. This is a pivotal moment that Byron and I took to just breathe and be in the moment. It was so necessary and so beautiful and so memorable to just stand at the side of the beach away from our guests just living in the moment.

These moments where I could just stop and think about what was happening are some of the clearest and happiest memories from my wedding day. I would definitely advise to take that beat and take that breath – you will be thankful that you did!

Bridal Car

 Photo by Nora Devai Photography

2. Decide What Is Important To You.

This was a good thing to do in the early stages of the wedding planning, when you are deciding on your budget and what you are going to want on the day. There are so many aspects to a wedding, and so many little details that you might want that your husband to be doesn’t, or vice versa. Discuss your ideas with one another and decide what can you live without at your wedding, and want absolutely has to be there!

Byron and I didn’t have a big budget for our wedding and we used this opportunity to decide what we would spend our money on, and what we could probably do ourselves. We decided that photography, and using that medium to remember the day, was important to us and decided to go all out on a photographer to get the best photos. We also decided that we didn’t want to go all out on renting wedding cars for the day because that wasn’t something that was too important to us, but was important to incorporate his grandparents into the wedding by utilising their car. Because of this, we didn’t have to spend much on cars we didn’t care about.

Definitely decide what you could live without. Your wedding can be your dream wedding, but it doesn’t necessarily have to look and cost the same amount as the royal wedding (unless that’s what you decided you wanted!).

Bridal PartyPhoto by Nora Devai Photography

3. People Will Give You Their Opinions

You need to understand that a wedding is a beautiful time in your life and the people who are important to you want to be involved. They will do this by giving you’re their opinion about how your wedding should be and what it should look like. You need to understand they aren’t doing this to annoy you; they are doing this because they love you and they want to help.

Listen to their opinions and advice and take it all in – they might actually have some good advice! If it’s not to your taste that is fine, but take it gracefully. Don’t be a bitchy bridezilla to the people who are just happy for you. Get your loved ones somehow involved in the wedding. Byron and I got our parents to do speeches and be the MC for the wedding, as well as get his grandparents to drive the wedding car. Our brothers and sisters were included in the bridal party and my brothers girlfriend helped my mother set the reception venue up on the day.

Even if you didn’t take their advice, at least they feel involved in your wedding.

 Bridal Bouquet Toss

Photo by Nora Devai Photography

 4. Something Will Go Wrong.

Hopefully nothing will, but if you approach the day with a relaxed attitude and stop channeling your inner bridezilla, then things wont feel like the end of the world if something does go wrong.

I read on the Rock N Roll Bride website that at a wedding the couple “arranged” to have the wedding cake fall on the floor. People were apparently crying and saying they were still going to eat it because it was the wedding cake and they didn’t want the bride to loose it. Lucky for them, it was still a rouse and the real wedding cake came out afterwards.

Something will go wrong. I got a heat rash on my chest the night before my wedding and was hurriedly trying to calm it down. I was having dinner with my maid of honour the night before hugging a bottle of champagne to my chest and slept with a cool rag on my chest. It seemed like the end of the world, but it wasn’t. It lightened up for the wedding and nobody noticed.

Thank god that was the only thing that went wrong though! I did freak out though, which probably made it worse, but thankfully it all cooled down. My advice would be to have your freak out and then solve it and move on. Don’t relish over it or when you think back to your wedding day you will only think about the one thing that went wrong, not the million things that went right.


Photo by Nora Devai Photography

5. Don’t Get Drunk.

This is important. You don’t want to wake up the next morning with a killer headache and no memory of your wedding or your wedding night. Drink champagne and celebrate for sure, but don’t go wild. This is your wedding night, not your eighteenth or twenty-first. Save the drunken bender for then.

However, lucky for us, the drunken benders only resulted in the Nutbush. Love it!

So there you have it, five little things I learnt when I got married. Stick with me and you’ll be glad you did!

One thought on “5 Things I Learnt From My Wedding Day

  1. Nice advice my daughter is getting married next year. We got the big things reserved the past month. I told her to get a calendar and mark due dates on important months and let stuff go for now. I’ll send her your post


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